OK My two cents about the Tiger Woods story.
#1. We now know that Tiger is human
#2. Before you go talking about what he shouldn't have done just think about this. Tiger is a "Golfer" who since a very young age, has made millions of dollars. He makes a gazillion dollars a year. How would you handle it if you went from making $40,000 to a gazillion dollars just for shooting 68 on the golf course how would you handle it. Tiger's got millions of women who have put a target on him. These are not just any women. These are the best of the best. Parents are sending their daughters after him deliberately. He goes around the world to play golf and anything he wants he can have. Could you really handle that?? Just think about how you react to a "6" that passes you on the street with, "hips, tips and lips." These women have that plus.....

Oh yea, and to the idiot, nowhere on the radar screen golferr who introduced Tigers wife to him. Shut up. He stated," if I would've known he was a lowlife like that I would've never introduced them. First off, know-one ever heard of you until this moment. Let's think about this. She went from changing diapers for your children to being the wife of the person that you try so desperately to beat. Maybe you sent her to him to cause this problem so that you can win a match. How's that for a conspiracy. Here's another thing. You think she's really upset about all of this. Let's think how this conversation would go. "Hey, you know that moron you introduced me to named Tiger", well he cheated on me and I'm leaving to come back and be your caretaker, (NOT).

Heres what I know. I'm not that good with math but I know half of Tiger is a good equation know matter how you divide,multiply,subtract or anything else. In other words, if Tigers wife decided to leave and take half, both of them would still have enough change to live well for the rest of their life. Tigers young, he made a mistake. He's human. Let it go because I'm sure Tigers wife will. Either way both of them will be fine whatever happens.

Last but not least my advise to Tiger, pray, ask God for forgiveness, get with some older brothers that will hold him accountable. Don't choose just anybody but ask God to show you some folk that have been through some stuff. SHUT YOUR MOUTH!!!!
He's a golfer, not a world figure. He's a natural man like you and me.

The Father Factor

A recent visit to the barber shop has given me the energy needed to address a very important matter in our nation and especially in the african american community, young women raising boys and young men. As I continue on, please know that this is a matter that crosses all racial and socio-economic circles so the things that I share can be applied by all.
I want to be clear and state that this is not a bash on anybody. This is not a, "get back at absent fathers" post. In my opinion there has been too much of that. We know that in our community over 50% of young men come from a home with no man in the house. We also know the results. So now I want to talk about some solutions. I'm not an expert but I do know a lil" something about this.

This first post will be geared towards sisters that are presently raising young men in the house without a father. These are tips that I have observed that seem to make the difference, especially in my life.

This is humorous but true. Ladies, please understand that the barbershop, especially in the hood, is the last place that we have where we can be experts on everything. The barbershop is NOT A PLACE FOR YOU. The same way the beauty salon is not a place for brothers. Trust me, I've spent enough time at both to know the insides of what goes on. My point is this. First try and find one of your male relatives to take your son to the barbershop. If you have to, please let the shop manager be able to say something corrective to your young man. If your son is being unruly please know that one of the brothers will correct him or should do it. Not by putting their hands on them but by talking to them. That's our school. That's where we learn about manhood and teach it when we get it. It's a village. Don't have a "don't say nothin to my child attitude." We're just trying to help.

Second or actually first. When getting into a relationship think about who the brother is and what this brothers background is before you decide to give access to this brother. Check on the family structure that he comes from. Find out about his mother and father. How did he do in school, where does he work, what church does he atend reguarly. God has made a man for every woman and a woman for every man. Be patient and stop looking for love in all the wrong places. Think about what might happen if he doesn't stay with you and the burden of baby momma drama. In other words WAIT. If that man loves you. Make him prove it. OK, let's put this way, No Ring, No Thing. UNDERSTAND. Trust me, it's worth it. Stop trippin' and thinking that a brother must be gay because he wants to do the right thing and wait until marriage.

Now let's deal with you that already is in the situation. First thing you need to know is that you can't make a man be a man. If the father of your child is not doing for the child, you, child support or no one else can make that man be a father except. God. Pray and then do what you have to do to make it work. Don't waste time trying to get back at him for what he's not doing. Way too much wasted energy. Not only that it is transferred to the child. Just realize that you also participated in this and move on. (Testimony #1) I never heard my mother ever say anything negative about my father nor was I ever allowed to say anything. That should always be taboo. Let that young man make his own decisions as he gets older. Instead of fighting and arguing, see if maybe you can have a neutral party sit with the two of you to work out something as far as visiting and some form of support. If it doesn't work just move on. Start thinking about a plan on how to make the best of this for everyone. Once it has been established that the relationship is over and he has moved on, you must accept it and do the same. Don't play the back and forth game. If he left and went to another, your door now has a new lock and he does not have they key> You can't handle the emotional roller coaster that a brother will take you on if you allow him to. If he has truly moved on and you know it please don't try to destroy his new boo. Here's another point on that matter. If you experienced a hurt on that relationship you should be a little smarter for the next time. How in the world can you go out and expose yourself again to someone that you didn't give enough time to prove that he is worthy enough of you.In other words, how you gonna be stupid enough to think if you have baby by a man that he's gonna stay. "WRONG AND GHETTO THINKIN" Now you have more than one issue. Please people, let's stop this nonsense of having a situation where boys are marrying there sisters and not even knowing it because you have allowed yourself to be used as dumping grounds for a dogs deposits. You were made better than that. YOU ARE ALL DAUGHTERS OF DESTINY. When God made you HE gave you the opportunity to bring in the seed to be used by HIM.

Sisters, keep your head up when dealing with your baby's father and he has a new boo, especially when you do to. Please know that you ought to keep the communications cordial. If you have a man of your house and he wants to pick up or visit, my thought is that he ought to respect the man of the house and communicate with the man of the house. Him talking to you is going to make that other brother think. OK, that may be too deep. Let me move on.

*Here's some areas that you can get some MAN experience. Start with your family. The older and more responsible male members can assist you in this matter. Talk to them and ask for help to be a mentor. PLEASE don't think you can do this by yourself, you can't. You have no idea how we think at various stages of our lives. *Make sure you are in a good Bible teaching church with a strong Men's Ministry. Normally they have mentors that have been checked thoroughly and strategically placed with young men to assit their growth. If a mentor is involved and you are single and they are not, hey, you know where I'm going...Be strong sister. Sports is a must.(TESTIMONY #2) In my day, my mother made me play everything, no questions. Sports is key for young men. Of course nowadays you have to check out the coaches. Please keep these young brothers busy doing something positive. Sports teaches discipline, teamwork, togetherness and responsibility. Make him go to practice. Now this may sound kind of crazy but take my advice, it works.(TESTIMONY #3)My mother made be go to practice even if I was on punishment. She told the coach what I did and trust me, by the end of that practice session, whatever I had done wasn't even going to happen again. The coach rode me HARD. Extra laps, pit drills in football, whatever it took the coach helped mom. Sports, especially football is a place where boys can work off that aggression.

Talk to your son effectively. There's nothing better than just some good old fashion conversation. Ask him about what's going on. Let him talk and see where he is and what stage he's at. Let the young man be a man. as he grows, please know that there will be some challenges. Once the hair starts growing and he starts discovering girls and the joys of them the whole games going to change. Prepare yourself because it's going to happen. My suggestion. Really get with the brothers in the church and let him hook up with them. Be careful but let him grow. There should be some boundaries with the girl thing. I can't say my mom was the best at this. She didn't like anybody but oddly enough my wife. That might say something in retrospect because looking back after 18 good years, well I'll leave that alone. I guess I must admit that you sisters have that mother wit thing and you can see things in girls that we don't. As we're growing you know what we see. I don't care how saved, or spiritual. At 16 it's all about a big butt and a smile. The Rev. is just keeping it real.Know this and role with it accordingly. Set the rules but let the brother grow. A young man wants to know that he is respected as a man even when he's a teenager. Back in the day my mom had help from the older brothers in the neighborhood. They wouldn't let you do what they were doing but now the game has changed. Trust me, keep them from birth in the church. (TESTIMONY #4) Even in my trippin days, because of my mothers "you got to go to church rules" early on, I didn't go as far as I could"ve.

#During the teen years insist on him to be neat and clean. This should've started early. Don't be afraid to make that boy work around the house. The Bible is clear on when you don't work you don't eat. Don't baby that boy. Teach him how to wash and fold his cloths. Teach him about hygiene. Teach him how to cook. Now sisters this means that you have to put some things to the side to make this work. (Testimony #5)My mother always had time for me. I had never had to compete with her "getting her grove on or her getting her nails and hair done) before she had time with me. Let's be real about this.

*For now, last but not least. For the sisters that are trying to do this alone. If the dad is trying, let him try. Sometimes brothers want to do the right thing but the problem is that you put the brother through so much that he just doesn't feel like the aggravation and gives up. Trust me, brothers know when they are doing wrong by their child. No court or anything else could do what a brothers conscious is already doing. The worst thing that you can do is run that brother away from doing the very thing that you want him to do. Get your mind off of getting back and put your mind on getting things right. Have sense about it, if a brother is going to be off and on and cause that young man disappointment then you should be cautious but if he is displaying or wanting to display consistency in being a father and not playing with your emotion, then let it be.. I believe that child support court is the worst thing ever. It gives a sister to have the opportunity to have a child without thought because if it doesn't work I can use the court to get what I want.The other thing is that you know that it's some scandelous women out here who will trap a brother up for the funds only....Basically I think it gives an added option for disaster instead of good. How about this. If a man can't make payments he's placed in jail and his drivers license is taken. How in the world can that make things better. How can he do better if he can't work or drive?????

*I've touched on a few subjects and the next post will deal with the fathers in this situation however if there are subjects that you have questions about, please feel free to e-mail me at agent462@yahoo.com or just post your comments. I am determined to bridge this gap between all involved. Remember this, "Kindness is the language that the blind can see and the deaf can hear" try it...

Reality Check

O.K. enough is enough. I've been sitting back watching how things are shaping up and I must admit, I never thought that the idiots would be this bold this fast. Let me go beyond the obvious idiotic cartoon.

Let's start with this stimulus bill. Here's my two cents. I believe this mess started with who some us called "the first black president" Bill Clinton. Remember the "dot.com" mess where companies had two sets of financial records and hyped up prospectus sheets to lead investors to believe that the companies were financially strong. Life was supposedly good, everybody seemed to be making money. And then the Bush doctrine of spend money overseas came into play. Haliburton no-bids contracts,Blackwater no-bids contracts, etc. This was going on while our economy was rapidly going down the tubes. Minority groups complained, and rightfully so, that banks and mortgage companies were "redlining" mortgages in the inner-cities. The government listened and predatory lenders were let loose to offer mortgages to people who couldn't afford what was being offered but the temptation was so much that they weren't advised against it. Now some of us are saying that they should've known better and you're right. But the truth is that these predatory lenders took advantage of a situation and the government made money from it and now the government has to pay for a problem that it had it's hand in...There goes the saying, "lay down with dogs and truly you will wake up with fleas. Well America, here's the "itch from the lay".

This mess that we are in is not the fault of President Barack Obama, he just happened to inherit it. The good thing is that he jumped right on it and whether you like it or not he is working on it. I didn't the The Bush trying to do anything creative except give money to the very people who caused the problem. What did they do with the governments money, exactly what they know how to do, "lay down with dogs again". They immediately went on vacation while the public was loosing homes and going bankrupt...Nice plan..

This whole situation has bipartisan blame, basically all of us have played a part in it. How many of us have looked around and said I really don't need all of this stuff. How many times can you clean out the closet and give things away that you hardly ever wore. Athletes and entertainers with a fleet of cars, 15 bedrooms with 3 people in the house. I recently saw an episode of Deion Sanders show and it showed his house. You can drive a car from one side to the other, WHY.....And what's this crap of this generation of parents thinking that they have to make sure that their kids don't have to go through the struggle that they went through, bunk that, I want my kids to experience some of that "I gotta hustle spirit". I want my kids to know that you have to work to eat. Your allowance comes in the form of a paycheck or pay for a service. You mess up in school, you get your behind whupped. C'mon, you know it worked for you.Can you imagine back in the day hearing your mother say, "it's time out time, *(&^%%^PLEASE. A switch, a belt, a frying pan or anything else. Oh and what about the teacher jacking you up..Those were the good ole days.

Anyway America, we have to chill with this RACIST crap and roll up our sleeves and help one another. Everybody wasn't irresponsible in this. We must realize that the only way this nation will get back in line is that we must get our housing market together. We must stop the "I'm going to make this guy fail" attitude because he is us. If he fails we fail, grow up. All of the racially motivated crap must stop. I've never seen such ignorance in my life. There is no plot to take over America from the any ethnic group. The New York Post cartoon was absolutely an ignorant racist mockery. Having Michael Steele as the head of the RNC is a joke. Barack Obama didn't just win because he was black, he won because he is smart. The RNC needs to stop with the "JEDI MIND TRICK" crap. Now Michael Steele is stating that we have to appeal to the "hip-hop group". Well Michael "Stizzy", you better go to white suburbia because that's where most of the hip-hop songs are being played. The truth of the matter is don't be something that you're not, just get involved in the community and do the right thing for all people regardless of the color. Let us all assist in getting this economy back where it should be. You can get to the same place just as well in a regular car as you could in the $400,000.00 Lamborghini.. Chill out, let's get back to Christ our Saviour, get back to church and demand Biblical, relevant teaching instead of emotionally charged rants.....

Oh yea, let me say this, about the video, RON CHRISTIE is the biggest moron I have evr heard if he's trying defend this cartoonist....

Yes, We Still Can

O.K. Here's another example of if you want it it you can accomplish it, regardless of race. Hard work has always been a tool of success for me. Just speaking on my own experiences and the experiences of those that I have talked to from somewhat equal backgrounds, we all agree that if you apply yourself and know what it is that you want you can accomplish it.

Please know that I am not suggesting that difficulties such as ignorance and even some racism does not occur. I am well aware that these things are still around. The good news is that we can break down these walls with hard work. Let's not forget years ago how bad it was. I am also still aware that many things in life come with a struggle and a price. The price of success in the African American community comes with the ridicule of "trying to be white" what the heck is that This is prevalent in other ethnicity's as well, unfortunately. It also means that we will encounter ignorance from our own, (crabs in the barrel syndrome). I've learned that these things are just "growth points". I've been taught to "never allow things to stay on my mind that ain't payin no rent",or in other words "don't major in the minor". I like what Russell Simmons said,"Do You".

I've been "doing me" long enough to know that, YES WE STILL CAN. My can, goes a lil bit further because I believe that "through Christ Jesus, we can do all things". This has helped me when those who were in positions to guide me instead stole dreams by not guiding at all. Unfortunately, many of us in the inner-city have experienced the lack of proper guidance but still we found that "Yes We Still Can. Because some of us somehow found a way to make it. We had some idea that maybe if we tried, it might work, because we saw someone who we knew or at least looked like us that did. This is why when we do "Make It" we have to go back and help others even if its just by being seen. Sometimes just being there at the right time may save a young person from going the wrong way. If we don't provide the positive influence to our young brothers and sisters regardless of skin color or gender, the gangs and drug dealers and strip joints will.

Apparently Myron Rolle saw someone or had someone tell him, Yes We Still Can and he believed it. In a time where too often we see young men that look like him on the front page of news stories for something other than the Rhodes Scholar, it's good to see that he believed it enough to achieve it. He did well at football and scholastically. Job well done son. You put it in your head, believed it and then achieved it. Kudos to his parents and his support system for never giving up.

Please let this be something that we show other young boys and girls. We have to share these stories because I see too many young people who don't seem to believe that it can happen. We all have seen them. I won't get too deep but we really need to start talking things like this up. This young man had too make a decision of going to Oxford University or going to the NFL. Now he can do all of those things, Oxford,Medical field and the NFL.
My one hope is that if he decides to later go on to the NFL please go to the Redskins...Good job lil bro. Let's see some more of these stories because "Yes, We Still Can. www.security-investigativeservices.com

The Reason for Professional Security

This why I recommend a professional Security Company such as Bermudez, Politano, Fauntleroy Security & Investigations. www.security-investigativeservices.com. There has been an increase in crime at Office buildings throughout America but especially in locations where large office complexes are located.

These predators simply walk in behind other people who "appear" to belong in the building and they go un-detected. Security at these locations, unfortunately, has not been as diligent at making sure "unfamiliar faces" are challenged when entering these locations.

Visitors have to be met with good customer service techniques but with the intention of proving if this person actually belongs in the building. Property managers have to realize that Security, no matter who the company is, is not an area that you want to cut-back on.

It's a shame that in this era of terror threats we still have not taken measures to protect ourselves against simple thefts. How in the world can we protect ourselves from major threats if this is still occurring. Lives have been shattered through identity thefts, stolen corporate documents, company checks, cash, keys to vehicles along with rapes and assaults on employees.

C'mon people, wake up. We spend millions on art and expensive furnishings and slack on security so that some thief can come and steal the expensive art and furniture????? Invest the time and money in a professional Security company.

What should you look for in a Company?

1. One that is licensed in your State and has adequate Insurance.
2. Check with the State licensing agency to investigate what complaints have been lodged against the company. (You must know that sometimes people complain about things that security has nothing to do with, so weigh everything before making judgement)
3. Talk to the owners or managers to see what experience they have.
4. Talk to some of the employees to see what they say about the company.
5. Find out what type of training the employees receive that may go with what you are looking for in your building.
6. See if the decisions makers ask to visit your sight for a walk through of the facility and how thorough they are in finding out about your needs and the building itself.
7. Never buy a package, make sure the service fits your needs completely..

Security concerns during the Holiday Season

Here we go again, hustling through the malls, thinking about our budget but still wanting to purchase gifts for Christmas because that's what we do. Well, how many of us are thinking about safety during these times? Here are a few things I want you to think about;
*Stop shopping we're in a recession, take someone to lunch instead(OK I knew that wouldn't work)

1. Try and carry cash
2. If you are using a bank or credit card, watch the person scanning the card. The card reader should be attached to the register.
3. The card should not be swiped through two different readers.
4. Ladies, please clean out your pocketbooks are carry small clutch type, the big bags (with last weeks lunch in it) are bait for pick pocket thieves..
5. Be careful going through revolving doors that KNOWONE sneeks in behind you.
6. Don't carry too many bags at once.
7. Don't leave items such as; laptops, bags, phones or cash in an area of your vehicle where it can be scene.
8. Shop with others at night and park at well lit areas close to where people can see you.
9. Make sure you have a good contact information in you cell phone under ICE (In Case of Emergency)
10. Take your time. Don't rush, make sure you have retrieved your card after a purchase, your wallet/handbag and the item purchased.
THINK THINK THINK, have a good holiday season by just spending quality time with friends and family.
Do something for someone who least expect it.

Politics

Is this latest mess politics or what? How long have we known that our economic status was jacked up in America. Why 40 some days before the election is all of this going down. Is this a Republican thing a Democratic thing or a cover up for the big boys...

Also, how much of this is the blame of greedy or uneducated Americans who took advantage of opportunities just because they were available, such as purchasing a $300,000.00 home just because some greedy mortgage company said that they could. Both were wrong. The person who anticipated making enough in the future and the mortgage company that sold the loan without any concern...

How do we really fix this mess. How about going back to old school ways and stop spoiling our children and make them work for a living, as a matter a fact how about the adults start working and working their way from the bottom up instead of wanting something for free. EARN, LEARN, SHARE........

PS...How about the CEO'S helping a brother out and giving back half of the golden parachute they get. Oh wait a minute, they earned that, RIGHT.